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Like much of the best stuff circulating on the Net, the following came to me with no attribution of authorship. It reminds me of a Truth I discovered walking my path:
There comes a point in your life when you realize there's a reason why they didn't make it to your future. The Truth this brings to my mind is that we should wait for Life to teach us about people and not try to force it out of Life. I recently told a friend, "Almost every time I have felt impelled to do something, it has been a mistake. But when I let an action grow and firm up in my spiritual innards, it is almost always right."When we are dealing with relationships and wondering what to think about them, the beautiful promise in thisNet piece is, "There comes a time in your life when you realize what matters." You don't have to figure it out. You don't have to grab life by the throat and choke it out. Just have faith in the process. Given time, all things reveal themselves to us, both people and situations. Life also reveals who never did matter. And sometimes it is a shock. I remember a man in my band who seemed to become a soul brother to me. We spent many nights talking the night away, baring our souls and revealing personal secrets. I walked with him through the misery of his divorce. Then he started dating a woman who didn't like me and he cut me out of his life immediately and completely. Time gives us perspective. After our friendship ended, I looked back and saw how superficial all his relationships had been -- even with his parents and children. Everyone and everything revolved around his fleeting needs. Another shocker is the people "who never did matter." We, too, can be superficial like that friend I just described. We can have some passionate need at one point in our lives and find someone who seems like a perfect solution but that part of them that appeared to fit us perfectly turns out to be a temporary role they were playing. It is good to admit that we, too, have done some of those cameo appearances in the lives of people who thought we would be more enduring. This powerful Net piece also speaks of people "who won't anymore" matter to us. Right now in your life are some people who need to be pruned. They are slurping up your sap and growing no fruit. You can ignore that obvious fact and just leave that half-dead limb dangling or you can lop it off and grow you a new one. There's something in us that makes us delay pruning dead parts and people. Maybe it's mercy. Maybe it's our tendency toward procrastination. One thing is for sure: if we know someone will never matter to us, we need to prune the sap suckers. It is the merciful thing to do for them and for us. I love the part that says, "There comes a point in your life when you realize who always will matter." The old "til death do us part" platitude does not just pertain to marriage. It can refer to many people in our lives -- friends, family and lovers. When I speak of "lovers," I am not just talking about sex. A few weeks ago I sang at the graveside of a woman who had every song I have ever sung and sometimes it seemed she had every word I had ever written. We met in our teens and bonded in friendship at the deepest level.of out souls. So don't worry about people from your past or present. Let life tell you how much of your heart to give to them.
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