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Dalton
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THE
FLIRT’S REWARD For
some reason I wrote in my journal in ’89, “A flirt gets a flirt’s
reward.” This
is true in intimate relationships. Flirt with someone and they think you
are merely toying with them. If they flirt back, you can both toy with
each other. Somewhere in the relationship you will have to bury your
toys in the sandbox and dive into the deeper part of the pool. Sometimes
a flirt fears rejection so much that he/she does not reveal their level
of desire. Flirting can become a flight from love. It is
also true in our daily occupations. Those who go to college and change
majors over and over are just flirting with their futures. All their
future gets is little peck on the cheek. At
some point we must fall in love with someone and let him or her know the
depth of our feelings. Yes, we may get rejected but rejection beats
beating around the bush. Rejection beats dishonesty. To withhold our
true feeling is a form of dishonesty. Naturally
we like to have some inkling of someone’s feelings for us before we
fully reveal our own. I am not saying we should gush out eternal love
for someone before the relationship has matured. It’s not a bad idea
to honestly ask, “Are we to the point of expressing how we feel for
each other?” In
our work, we had better fall in love with what we are doing or we will
never succeed. I recently taught a college writing class and I said,
“Until we become obsessed with something, we are not going very far
with it.” So I
am recommending obsession? Yes, I sit here enjoying light on my keyboard
as I write because Edison was a man obsessed. I will drive out somewhere
to eat in a few minutes because Ford was a man obsessed. If he hadn’t
been, I would be hoofing it. A
flirt’s reward might put enough groceries on your table to keep you
from starving but it will never make you a notable success. The most
regrettable aspect of a flirt’s life is that he/she never gets to
experience the “thrill of the chase,” the joy of complete immersion
in fulfilling work. Those times when we get lost in the joy. One
hour of being spiritually lost in your work will permanently cure you of
flirting. You will never be satisfied again to not be in love. Visit
Dalton’s website at www.daltonroberts.com.
His writings are gathered at www.ipsfeatures.com.
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