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SUNDAY JOURNAL
By Dalton Roberts
For IPSFeatures
4-21-02
RUINING A DISCUSSION
I clipped an article by Hugh and Gayle Prather on this day in ‘88. I
want to share some great wisdom from them and add something they left
out;
They said the magic rules for ruining a discussion are to bring the
matter up when at least one of you is angry; be as personal as possible
when setting forth the problem; concentrate on getting what you want;
instead of listening, think of what you will say next; correct anything
your partner says about you; mention anything from the past that has a
chance of making your partner defensive; and end by saying something
that will never be forgotten.
They missed one. Another magic way to ruin a discussion is to withdraw
and say nothing to anything the other person says. It can be called
denial, withdrawal, pouting or passive-aggressiveness.
If you find yourself with such a person, try to find an exit, just any
door leading from the place, and take it. Think long and hard about
going back. If you do, make sure it is in response to their contacting
you and actually discussing the problem.
Fence posts don't talk. So move them out of your life and move in a
fence post. At least you will have a place to hang some clothes.
DREAMS
Few things teach us more about our several selves more than dreams. Just
recently, a dream revealed a solution to a life situation for me/
Sometimes they just open a window and air out some old haunting fear.
Carl Jung said they reveal to us our "blind spots." Things our
conscious mind is intentionally or blindly repressing. I have found that
a few are direct divine impartations of vital information we need.
I have several dream books, including a half dozen on dream
interpretation. The best book by far is Wilda Tanner's "Marvelous,
Magical, Mystical World of Dreams," published bu Sparrow Hawk Press
in Oklahoma.
The single technique I have found most helpful is to list all the nouns
that occur in your dream, and then list everything those nouns mean to
you. Not to the dictionary but to you.
Aside from self-discovery, it is one of the most fun things you can add
to your life.
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